About love........

In truth I should be the last person to talk about love, my preception of love has always been immature, muddy and preposterous. In fact, I dont think I have still grasped the entire spectrum of feelings collectively termed love. My first understanding of love was from movies, confused between reality and commerciality, I could never paint the big picture, there were far too many dark areas. Imagine looking at a Van Gogh in candle light, the details were just not there for all to see. In fact, like tourists appreciating the Van Gogh for being a Van Gogh more than anything else, "love" seemed to hold a charm without understanding what it meant.

From celluloid love to hormones-working-overtime-adolescent love, dreams are invariably centered about the perfect girl. Like playboy centerfolds, the perfect girl or the perception of the perfect girl changes every month or even faster. The perfect girl can be just about anyone from the girl next door to the girl in your class to the senior girl who works with you on a school project. The girl next door? Does it even exist or are all the beautiful girls housing next to Hrithik Roshan? Believe me even if a beautiful girl moves ostentatiously next door and throws a wild party every week, I would need a cardiac arrest to wake up to the fact.

What about love after marriage? What about love after arranged marriage? Some claim that love after marriage is the true love. For some others arranged marriage might be the easiest option towards unconditional love, no strings attached. Still others are cynical, boorish and antagonistic towards arranged marriage.

But, what is it about love, exclusive of physical love, that makes it so complicated. Why does it happen to a few and for others it is as real as the lochness? But when we bond with someone special why does it become difficult to get away from the attachment. Still, compromise plays a great part in love and marriage. So, if you are compromising with the one that you love, then could you say that the partners are not truly tuned in. After all, if two people who are in love and understand each other so very well, there neednt be any compromise at all, does it? It gets complicated as we grow and build a definition of love and how ones love life should be.

Truth is, sometimes we want to love so much and be loved so much, we are not too choosy about who we love. Other times we make love such a pure and noble thing no poor human can even meet our vision. But for the most part love is recognition, an opportunity to say 'There is something about you I cherish'. It doesnt necessarily entail marriage or even physical love. There is love for your parents, love for the nation, love for people and love for the simple pleasures of life.

Some love comes like wind off the sea; while others grow slowly from the seeds of friendship and kindness. Which one is yours? Which one do you prefer to be yours?

P.S: To all the people who know me personally, this is just an offhand opinion about love. So please hold onto our horses and rein in your imaginations :)